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External beauty ... the ruler of all attributes

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     When sometimes you feel you had been deprived of a happiness you deserved, for something that doesn't define your inner qualities, you feel wronged. Did you ever think you could have done something to have been born in a beautiful skin than what you have? We never have such unnecessary thoughts because we know, this is not in our hands. Then why are there people blaming and people being blamed, for only their external beauty? A blame game for something you didn't even do and have no control over. It doesn't even define the person's real self, but people greatly depend upotge reassurance a person's external beauty gives for his/her goodness in the society.      No body in the world would go for a cellphone with comparatively less features, in comparison to a phone with a far better quality, more features and safer in the same price range.  Do you know, that the melanin in the human skin prevents it from sunburns and is found more in the...

A simple key to get over stress related to frustration and ensure success in your chosen path.

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      Do you often feel frustrated? Where does this frustration develops from? A very simple answer is not getting what you had expected. Frustration signals directly to the feeling which comes after consequent failures even after numerous trials. You feel frustrated when your efforts were honest and you did the best you could have done, but the results did not meet your expectations.       Let me tell you this feeling may not help you to gain success later but it is surely gonna let you have some losses for sure. Your body and mind would get a negative signal and would act accordingly after that. They might gradually begin to remain in the stressful situations even after such situations have passed already. It would subconsciously feed in your mind that you are in a situation that is terrible for you. And thus, the results would hamper the biological processes in your body. Persistent stress and frustration might lead to p...

5 golden steps you can take to rekindle a dying relationship

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      If you think you are in a relationship that is just near to death. If you have started to feel the problem is not cheating but the two of you not loving each other anymore or feeling happy in each other's company. You really want things to have some sort of positive outcome. Conversations you both are having are not fine at all and most of the time end on some kind of an argument. Your emotions are somewhat bottled up if you keep quite and things backfire if you try to express yourself.        You really want things to improve right? This is why you are here. And this shows that things have still not gone out of hand completely and you are still hoping that one day things would come to a happy phase. So here are a few bits of things you can do which may bring a good result for your relationship. If you really think it's not a case of cheating and disloyalty in your relationship then you have a good chance that you can rejuvenate the o...

Main ek LADKA hun ... Hindi poetry on gender stereotyping by Sonal Singh

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      'Main ek LADKA hun' is one of our best creations till date which expresses out a topic that is not much thought about. It focuses basically upon gender stereotyping and how we have categorised works, choices, colours, jobs and responsibilities on the basis of gender. And much more than that, it focuses on the struggles that a male has to face in the society for having a broad mindset and his decision to gender equality.      A male, he might be a husband, a brother, or a father, has often faced humiliation and us ridiculed if he goes against this stereotyping, and chooses to work differently. We all are no strangers to the capabilities of both the genders and have seen people raising their voices for women empowerment. But, it's still a tragedy that people hardly think that the males in the society would be having any troubles in thinking out of the box. We hardly have any idea about the problems, the men in our surroundings face. Males do...

The social stigma against COMPLAINS..

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     The human race is evolved with an ability to perceive what's going on around in the environment. We have a cognitive ability and that is what makes us realise if there is something wrong going on around us. It helps us to raise our voice and ask for help or even complain to save ourselves from that wrong thing. But when the matter comes to a problem within us or with the people around us, and if this cognitive ability comes into action we are somewhat under an external pressure and resistance to not bring it out in public.      These are a wide range of topics such as, a mental health issue, an issue with the behaviour of a family friend or a relative, an issue with your own family or parents, an issue with someone socially powerful and sometimes even those who are a part of some authorities, etc. There might be more in this list or maybe some different versions of the same story. But there is one thing that is common, and that is the resis...

Hai Junoon .. Hindi poetry by Sonal Singh

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     "Hai junoon" is basically a motivational and inspirational poetry for those who are facing hard times and have a strong desire to come out of them. This poem would help create a spark in those people who have big dreams but lack in the spark required, those, who find it difficult to stand up again if they fall once in the way to their destiny.       This poem explains the fact as to how can we prevent ourselves from giving up. It explains, that a person if had any intentions to give up, or had a fear to lose, would have never started to fight for his/her dreams. It lets us know that whenever we feel like we are loosing it, remembering why we started, helps.      A person's biggest competitor in the world is no one else but himself. If you can't change your situations, no one else can do it for you. Giving up is as easy as simply sitting down feeling tired, but that is an option that should not be given to you...

Shikayatein .. Hindi poetry on unrequited love by Sonal Singh

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     A situation comes in our romantic relationships where we think that our significant other is not present with us even if they do physically. We feel hurt, and unheard. Such a feeling is not just frustrating but also is something that makes us very sad. It looks like we are often going through an existential crisis, and our partner seems to not even bother about it. Life doesn't seems like going to any direction and everything around looks colourless. The problem comes up when we don't even know what is that something that we should do, or should have done so that we may get the same love and affection from our partner as much as we give to them. Everything can't work out from one side if the latter isn't equally treating us. This poem over here, tries to share our some of such feelings in the form of words. It might help you clearly understand what situations you are in, if in case you are. A poem is one of the best and the most beautiful way of express...

Jealousy ruins happiness.. Feelings, causes and how to deal with it.

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     There are times when your jealousy creeps into your mind in such a way that it seems impossible to get over it or even ignore it and divert our attention into some other direction. Internet is full of articles which advise us to do the same, to divert our attention as an immediate response to suppress this feeling. We're asked to find out the root cause and sometimes even discuss it with the significant other.      Trust me I tried my best to do so. I tried to figure out what the root cause might be. And there were multiple things that added up to be a reason for the same.       Before I let you know anything about the causes I felt were responsible, let me share the situation which caused me to feel jealous.       My significant other has been my support system all this time. He is a person with an open mind and believes in a lifestyle that doesn't have any unnecessary boundaries. But this too much f...

Ye waada raha .. Hindi poetry by Sonal Singh

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           'Ye waada raha' is one of those poetries that would not just fill you with inspiration but would also let you know the value of empowering yourself. It's not always that the situation is in our favour, and not always that we have someone or the other to help us or take our responsibility. We may not always be from an influential background and doesn't matter at all. It's not our fault if we are born poor, but it is surely our fault if we die the same way. We don't even realise how much power we have inside ourselves until there is a time we start using it. And if we don't, this power would ofcourse be lost somewhere inside.       It's important and is high time that we start taking steps to be the best in our fields and be consistent on our path to success. And for this purpose, we need strong motivation and also a sense of responsibility within ourselves. We all know that the number of accidents of bli...

Waqt ka pata nahi chalta.. Hindi poetry bye Sonal Singh

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Every day, every minute, every second passes without bothering if you have lived it to the fullest or not. We keep preparing for that one time when we would live but no one ever knows if they would be alive till then or not. This hindi poetry over here tries to bring out this same message and makes the readers reflect whether this way of life is good or not? It encourages them to wait for a moment and observe the nature and it's beauty. The poet over here asks to wait and watch how everyone looks like when they move in a crowd like a herd of sheeps. So do enjoy this lovely peace:- You can also watch this poem in the form of a video for an even better experience from the link below:- Click here to watch the poem video Roz dhalta ja raha hai din, Waqt ka pata hi nahi chalta.. Kis waqt ke aane k pal rahe ho gin Ki jeene ka pata hi nahi chalta.. Usi bhaag daud mein hote hain savere. Thakaan mein vhi shaamein hoti hain.. Arso se thahaake lagaaye nahi... Neendein nahi ab bas ...

Mann ki baatein.. Hindi poetry by Sonal Singh

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     When we deal with loneliness, we find it really hard to share all that is inside our heart. It becomes difficult to keep everything to ourselves all the time but the truth is that everyone isn't trustworthy in this world. We can be in a house full of people, we can have a whole lot of friends on social media, a big friends circle at school or college, but deep within we know that we are lonely, and this feeling is something that many of us have experienced. In such a situation, we wonder how different would our lives have been if we had a friend with whom we could have shared all our happiness and sorrows, all our feelings and even been vulnerable at times without being judged.      Don't you think there should be solution for this? A substitute for such a friend is the night sky, the moon and the stars. Once you look up and gaze towards them, you start feeling better. This poem below would give you an explanation as to how you ...

Let's talk about anger issues...

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           Is there anything as such as not being furious? Or probably you dream to be someone of that sort. You say you get angry, but it's not your fault. But then it is also you who says you would control it.  An interesting fact that I came to notive about anger is, that it isn't something that you think you can suppress. You would fine millions of people telling you about controlling it, ignoring it or simply not feeling it. Just try to imagine a different situation. Suppose you get hurt while playing, cooking, or while doing anything (activity isn't important). A sure shot outcome would be pain from that hurt. Now imagine someone telling you, ignore it, ignore your wound, ignore your pain, or simply don't feel the pain. How would that sound like?  Craziness? Or something you would call nonsense? Isn't it?       Now try to relate this with your situations, don't you feel the same when you are angry and some one advises you...