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Pyaar ki lakeer .. Hindi prem kavita by Sonal Singh

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Poem :- Bas pyar ki hi lakeer hai, Koi kayde ka ghera nahi hai, Vo mera ho ke bhi ab tak mera nahi hai. Waqt bitana sang uske, Lagbhag se aasaan ho gaya. Tasveer ko gale lagaana usey, Milne ke samaan ho gaya. Majboor hai vo zara sa, Koi dhokebaaz nahi, Hota hai jo mehsus mujhe, Uspe usey bhi naaz nahi, Chubhti hai meri baatein jab, Samjhta hai mujhe, Jaanta hai kismat se dukhi hu,par usse naraz nahi. Kehta hai "Bas kohra sa chhaya hai raaste par, koi andhera nahi hai". Bas pyar ki hi lakeer hai, Koi kayde ka ghera nahi hai. Vo mera ho ke bhi ab tak mera nahi hai. Zimmedariyaan jo hain so nibhaani toh padengi, Ye chhoti chhoti takleefein bhulaani toh padengi. Zindagi pe uske bas mera haq toh nahi, Jo chehre hain duniya uski, unpe muskuraahat laani toh padengi. Chand ki chamak hai bas, abhi savera nahi hai, Bas pyar ki hi lakeer hai, Koi kayde ka ghera nahi hai. Vo mera ho ke bhi ab tak mera nahi hai. Thoda thak sa gaya hai abhi ruka nahi hai, Usoolon se apne vo jhu...

External beauty ... the ruler of all attributes

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     When sometimes you feel you had been deprived of a happiness you deserved, for something that doesn't define your inner qualities, you feel wronged. Did you ever think you could have done something to have been born in a beautiful skin than what you have? We never have such unnecessary thoughts because we know, this is not in our hands. Then why are there people blaming and people being blamed, for only their external beauty? A blame game for something you didn't even do and have no control over. It doesn't even define the person's real self, but people greatly depend upotge reassurance a person's external beauty gives for his/her goodness in the society.      No body in the world would go for a cellphone with comparatively less features, in comparison to a phone with a far better quality, more features and safer in the same price range.  Do you know, that the melanin in the human skin prevents it from sunburns and is found more in the...

Teri berukhi .. A Hindi poetry on relationship issues, by Sonal Singh

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Let's go through the poetry first:- Jab aas paas na rahun tumhare, Jab nuks koi na nikaalun tumhare, Zara puchhna khud se mere baare mein. Jab akele na bhi ho bina mere, Jab yaad bhi na ho aankho mein tere, Zara puchhna khud se mere baare mein. Jab lage ki khush ho aise bhi, Jab lage mujhse chidhte ho vaise bhi, Zara puchhna khud se mere baare mein. Jab lage ki ab jaa kar sukun mila, Jab lage mere saath bas khoon jala, Zara puchhna, khudse mere baare mein. Puchhna ki mera kasoor kya hai, Puchhna ki ye jo fitoor sa hai, Ye kya hai?  Meri galti hai koi ya ab main hi galat lagti hun?  Tumhe pareshani hai koi, ya tumhari pareshani hi main lagti hun? Kyu aisa rishta hamaara badalne laga hai? Kyu jo hasta tha mann ab machalne laga hai? Kya wajah hai ki roz taraazu alag hota hai? Kyu ye roz inaam mera alag hota hai? Kuchh toh sochte hoge mere mann ko tatolte waqt?  Kuchh toh dekhte hoge mere jazbaat se khelte waqt? Mujhe acha lagega ya bura kya tumhe pata nahi chalta...

A simple key to get over stress related to frustration and ensure success in your chosen path.

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      Do you often feel frustrated? Where does this frustration develops from? A very simple answer is not getting what you had expected. Frustration signals directly to the feeling which comes after consequent failures even after numerous trials. You feel frustrated when your efforts were honest and you did the best you could have done, but the results did not meet your expectations.       Let me tell you this feeling may not help you to gain success later but it is surely gonna let you have some losses for sure. Your body and mind would get a negative signal and would act accordingly after that. They might gradually begin to remain in the stressful situations even after such situations have passed already. It would subconsciously feed in your mind that you are in a situation that is terrible for you. And thus, the results would hamper the biological processes in your body. Persistent stress and frustration might lead to p...

The social stigma against COMPLAINS..

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     The human race is evolved with an ability to perceive what's going on around in the environment. We have a cognitive ability and that is what makes us realise if there is something wrong going on around us. It helps us to raise our voice and ask for help or even complain to save ourselves from that wrong thing. But when the matter comes to a problem within us or with the people around us, and if this cognitive ability comes into action we are somewhat under an external pressure and resistance to not bring it out in public.      These are a wide range of topics such as, a mental health issue, an issue with the behaviour of a family friend or a relative, an issue with your own family or parents, an issue with someone socially powerful and sometimes even those who are a part of some authorities, etc. There might be more in this list or maybe some different versions of the same story. But there is one thing that is common, and that is the resis...

Miss you Maa .. A sad hindi poetry by Sonal Singh

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     "Miss you Maa", the phrase itself says it's whole story. This poetry brings out the pain that most of us face or are destined to face in this world and is something that we can't just run away from or can skip this feeling if he are lucky enough to have felt a mother's love and care in our lives ever.      The pain is equally invincible and has no substitute. But what is that which makes this poem so much different? It's the regret, the feeling of guilt that a child feels once he or she has lost the most loving and caring person in his or her life. The regret of not being with her, your mother, when you could have been. The regret of not having the time to live some happy moments in her presence. The regret of not ever keeping her as your priority despite being her priority ever since you have been born.       It's obvious that bringing someone back is not possible, nor can we stop anybody forever. Sooner or later, every...

I Miss You Papa .. An emotional hindi poetry by Sonal Singh

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     "I Miss You Papa", is an emotional masterpiece poetry that can lead one to tears. The feeling of losing a parent, a father, is one such irreparable loss, that most of us in this world are destined to face, sooner or later. There is an outburst of memories that one has with their father, is what is seen in such a situation. And the pain is just unimaginable.       We generally are under a notion that everything will remain as it is forever, our life, our family, our loved ones, and this notion makes us take our important support system, our parents, for granted. This is sad, as no one is able to change anything they did in the past, and there is no possibility to correct our mistakes even after we realise it, as there is no way to bring back the ones who have left this world. All we have with us is guilt and sadness.       The poem here, brings out minute details of every moment one experiences with a fat...

Empathy in a relationship and it's importance. How would they be able to enculcate this lovely attribute...?

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           Is it so very necessary for both the individuals in a couple to be perfect? Or is it simply togetherness and the will to accept each other the way they are that is important? Why is it so common these days to see people still unknown to the attribute of empathy? They are often confused between what they call empathy and what its actual meaning is. What they call as empathy is actually what we know as sympathy. Being sympathetic in a relationship turns things into a master and slave situation. You feel pity over your partner, maybe that's why you would not choose to hurt them, but that doesn't mean you would feel that same way they are feeling.       Men and even women too have been seen to have a lack of empathy but they don't even realize this. Your partner tells you about some problem they are facing, all you start doing is either console them, tell them you feel sorry for them, but wait, you felt the same when y...