Let's talk about anger issues...

     

     Is there anything as such as not being furious? Or probably you dream to be someone of that sort. You say you get angry, but it's not your fault. But then it is also you who says you would control it. 

An interesting fact that I came to notive about anger is, that it isn't something that you think you can suppress. You would fine millions of people telling you about controlling it, ignoring it or simply not feeling it.

Just try to imagine a different situation. Suppose you get hurt while playing, cooking, or while doing anything (activity isn't important). A sure shot outcome would be pain from that hurt. Now imagine someone telling you, ignore it, ignore your wound, ignore your pain, or simply don't feel the pain. How would that sound like? 

Craziness? Or something you would call nonsense? Isn't it? 

     Now try to relate this with your situations, don't you feel the same when you are angry and some one advises you not to be? It isn't a big deal if you get angry. Anger is a human emotion that is as natural as hairs growing on your skin. If you are completely out of anger in every situation, you might not be able to protect yourself from situations where you might get exploited. Your anger protects you, so the very first thing to be put out of your mind is to think that you must put your emotion of anger in the bin. 

     You simply cannot. You try doing stuffs like avoiding your brains call. Trying to behave the way you aren't from inside. But you know what, any system in order to run perfectly, must have each of its parts in co ordination with the other. In a similar way, we must be thinking exactly what we are doing. 

You probably expect listening to the vice versa version of the statement I mentioned above. But that would in my opinion be a bit harmful. You might want to hurt the latter or yourself so therefore, it's not advisable to do so.

You might be eager to know if there is something you can still do. You have anger issues, or not, you are short tempered or not, it simply doesn't matter much. 

     You must firstly know it's nothing to run away from. You might have had a fight, or faced an insult. You might have been cheated too, and many a times you were the one who was wrong and still it is you who gets angry. Sometimes you don't even know the reason for you to get but ironically, you get furious.

It's not anything you can switch of like a fan. So please don't you think you can reach to an extent where you would feel happy being insulted. Even if you have become a saint, you can't deny the fact that it's inevitable. Trust me, or not, but angers is like a pain. You can't just stop feeling the pain, it exists, until treated. You can't turn of your anger too. It's just the way of expressing it that works. 

     You know it had been a hard time a while ago when all of it started and made you get mad. But now what? Simply running away from your own thoughts ending up creating new ones. You don't even realise how this chain reaction starts working in your brain and all of a sudden, every conscious part of your mind gets to work on the very cause of this anger. We imagine more and more. We try giving ourselves reasons to get angry and keep this fire alive. This reasons given by the subconscious mind which is fed by your anger, thereby giving you more and more fuel to explode. 

     What to do about it?

     Acceptance is the key. You should not say things that are lies, at least to yourself. Be truthful. Be honest to yourself and admit you are angry.

     Accept this fact thay you are angry, and see the magic working suddenly. Once you accept this, your subconscious won't send anymore signals for you to get angry any more than what you are at the moment. 

     Trust me, it works the best. Now you would say, is there anything that can help you not get angry aur simply get obmver your anger within seconds. Look, honestly, there is no false promises given here. Everything that is said is simply tried and tested. You know, the human body heals it's wounds on its own. The ointment that you had used was just for not letting it get worse. Your fury would very soon turn off once you accept that you are angry. Ask yourself why are you fighting with your own mind. You can get angry and for as long as you can but it shouldn't be misunderstood with taking wrong decisions or unruly actions. 

     Try to figure out why were you angry? You might get to know the reason, sometimes it's because you don't have the authority to go against your superiors and that resentment turns itno anger. In such cases you aren't even able to bring it out, because of a fear of a self loss. And that also tells us that we aren't unable to control unruly actions in anger. It is just the person whom we are mad at that changes the situations. 

Learn the fact that anger and violence are two different things. Violence be it vocal or physical, is in both ways not only wrong but also controllable. On the other hand anger, which is an emotion must be accepted. Don't run away or it would chase you and mind you, your mind travels faster than anything in this world. 

     Don't shout or scream. But accept this feeling. You know it takes time. Give some to yourself. Rest everything is perfectly fine. Common smile now.